Just Ask

For the past 48 hours, I have thought about nothing but sex. It is a miracle I got anything done.

Courtesy of MSNBC's sexploration columns, here is a bit of advice for you sex makers....

According to the new Elle/MSNBC.com Sex and Love Survey, only four in 10 respondents said they have asked their lovers for something in bed in the past month. Donald S. Strassberg, a professor of psychology at the University of Utah, says communication is the bedrock of sexual satisfaction. Yet, our culture hasn’t given us permission. He says, "We’re afraid of offending our lovers, afraid of being judged by our lovers, afraid of admitting to any “weaknesses.”

Many people worry that a request can sound like an implied criticism, as if “Could you swirl your tongue slowly counterclockwise” will be heard as “Why can’t you do it right?” Or “Do you think you could wear glasses and a plaid skirt marked with chalk dust and act like my seventh-grade algebra teacher?” will be heard as “You are so boring, I need you to be somebody else to get excited.”

Lesson to be learned...Just Ask. You may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

Let me know how it goes.